Archive for November, 2008
Dealing With Relationship Break-Up – 3 Vital Steps
We have a lot of steps on how to deal with a coughing car, a computer that won’t start, and even with iPhones that won’t work.
BUT we have very few information about the steps on dealing with relationship break-up.
We have to face the sad fact that we switch to what we see on movies, read on love novels, or we just stand there as our already-shaky relationship crumbles right before our very eyes.
If you’re someone looking for real and practical steps on dealing with relationship break-up, allow me to help you.
Let me just remind you that this is NOT for passive reading.
You have to put these steps on dealing with relationship break-up into action if you should see your bond renewing its flame and passion.
And lastly, this is NOT conventional wisdom.
Forget about the movies, those pocket books – forget about what you think you know. These are real steps for real people who NEED real help.
Ready?
Here we go.
Dealing With Relationship Break-Up Step 1
Be calm and do NOT panic.
I know it’s very hard to maintain composure under the circumstances. After all, your supposed-to-be life-long partner has decided to part ways with you.
And words simply can’t describe the torrent of negative emotions that you’re feeling right now.
HOWEVER, this first step is essential if you’d be successfully dealing with relationship break-up. Allow the confusion to take over and the next thing you know is that you’re doing things that will completely ruin things that are otherwise salvageable.
Dealing With Relationship Break-Up Step 2
So you’ve taken a deep breath and calmed yourself?
Here’s the next thing to do: accept the break-up FOR NOW.
“Ouch!” you might be exclaiming.
Remember, the acceptance is just temporary and you NEED to buy time to clear yourself of the negativity and confusion that’s filling you right now.
Accepting the break-up temporarily gives you that.
Come to think of it, if repairing a broken piece of hardware needs a clear and focused mind, so does your relationship.
So take another deep breath and accept that break-up for now as our second in dealing with relationship break-up.
Dealing With Relationship Break-Up Step 3
Last but not the least: send your ex a note.
I know that sounded like what Joe did to get Jane back in the latest chick-flick movie. BUT this letter or note shouldn’t be about getting back together.
Matter of fact, I must warn you about talking about the break-up and things that may remind your ex-partner about it. It will bring back the pain that both of you went through, and might spoil a good start.
Rather, talk to her concerning her current situation. Let your ex know that you’re ok and that you’re hoping to get along as friends.
This way, your ex won’t approach you with blinking red lights at the back of her head, making the process of dealing with relationship break-up a lot easier.
The Number 1 Way To Get Your Ex Back!
What is the number one thing you can do to get your ex back? I know you want your partner back, but to get them back you have to understand the right mind set you need to be in. This mind set is probably not what you think it is. So pay attention as I try to help you with this problem.
I’ve been in your exact spot before. And I made all the normal mistakes that someone who wants their ex back can make. I thought I had to show how much I cared. I thought I needed to let my partner know what I was feeling. And the truth is none of that is what works. You have to understand the concept of scarcity if you want them back.
Attraction works on the principal of scarcity. Humans want what they can’t have. You see it all around you. Why do you think diamonds are so expensive? If diamonds were common and everyone had one, what do you think their worth would be? Much, much lower than it is now. The same idea works on almost everything. And it can work to your advantage in getting your ex back.
So what is the number one thing you can do to start the process of getting your back?
Don’t contact them. Leave them alone. Any contact you have with them is only going to push them away. If you work with the push/pull theory you can begin pulling them back to you by making yourself scarce. You are not in the right frame of mind to attract them back after you have just broken up. You need to leave everything alone for a bit so that your ex can go through the phase of missing you.
If you follow this idea, you can create a natural re-attraction that will start the process of getting your partner back.
MUST READ: How to Win Your Ex Back!
Online Dating – Get Ready!
You’ve decided to join the online dating world. Millions of singles do it – why shouldn’t you. You sit down at the computer and fire up your search engine . . . that is where the trouble starts! How many dating sites are there?! With all these options how will you ever choose? It can be a bit intimidating! Here are a few tips to get you started:
Ask Friends
If you haven’t done so already – talk to your friends and co-workers about their online dating experiences. Most of us have at least one friend or acquaintance that has given it a try. Ask them which sites they’ve used and what they liked and disliked about each one. Remember, just because someone else doesn’t like a site doesn’t mean you won’t. There seems to be a site out there for anything you might be interested in. There are religious dating sites, golf dating sites, dating sites for pet owners, dating sites for shy people, adult dating sites – you name it, there is sure to be a site for it and that is a good thing. Dating sites reflect the personalities of their members.
Try Different Dating Sites
Register with several different dating sites and see what their members are like. Most sites that charge a fee to join, run 7-day or 14-day Free Trials so take advantage of those to test a site out. Just be sure to read the fine print and cancel before you get charged for a membership you aren’t interested in. The best offers are those from dating sites that don’t require you to give them financial information (credit card, etc) to take advantage of the free trial.
Post a Dating Profile Photo
For the best results you have to post a recent photo on your dating profile. If you don’t like the idea of posting a photo for everyone that comes along to view – find a web site that doesn’t allow non-members to browse and search. ZaZaVu.com is an online dating site that only allows registered members to search profiles and all members post photos on profiles.
Give It Some Time
When you find a site you like stick with it for a month or two and see how things go. If you still aren’t satisfied try another site.
Take a Break
It is a good idea to take a break from online dating from time to time if you aren’t getting the results you want. Online dating can be exhausting, so take some time off and try it again later. Membership changes constantly so don’t get too discouraged.
By trying out different dating sites you’ll quickly be able to find at least one that suits you and what you are looking for. Remember to set reasonable expectations – not every match will be a winner – but do have fun and enjoy meeting new people.
If you want to do some homework before dating a woman, you may want to check this out: How to Attract Women Anywhere & Everywhere!
Are You Ready for a Serious Relationship? Three Questions to Ask Yourself
Joan had dated Bill for two years, and they had become very serious. So serious that they began talking about marriage, a family, and their future together. It was a shock when one day out of the blue, Bill announced that he was finished with their relationship and had found someone else he would rather be with. Truly, Joan had not seen this coming, and was heart-broken. She didn’t think she would ever date again.
Many people suffer serious hurts in relationships, and for a time they are unable to even consider dating again. If this is you, be assured that it is good to take a short break after being in a serious relationship to allow yourself time to heal. However, eventually you will have to move past your hurt, and begin to date again. Online dating is a great, non-threatening way to begin. Read www.Christian-online-dating-guide.com for lots of tips and helpful hints.
If you meet a wonderful person, you may begin to question whether it is worth the risk to enter into a serious relationship with him/her. Are you ready for another serious relationship? Here are three things to ask yourself:
1. Am I confident in who I am? Don’t let another person’s shortcomings ruin your self-image. Just because they have moved on, doesn’t necessarily mean bad things about you. Be confident in yourself, your goals, your dreams, and your hopes for the future.
2. Are there things I can do to improve my relationships? Yes, be confident in who you are, but also look for ways you can improve your relationships. Analyze your past relationships for mistakes you could have made. Were you too pushy? Were you a bit smothering? If possible, talk to a counselor or trusted friend and get their perspective.
3. Do you feel that this person is worth beginning a relationship with? Is this person someone you could see yourself with long-term? Write down some of the qualities you are looking for in a potential life-partner. Nobody is perfect, but do you see at least some of these qualities in this person?
Remember, relationships may have their ups and downs, but there is nothing better than being with the love of your life. Don’t let your fear of another bad relationship hold you back!
Are You Ready for the Life of the Sugar Daddy?
Do you think that you are ready to live the life of the sugar daddy? Are you ready to live life in the fast lane – working long hours to reap the rewards of a high paying career, driving fast cars – luxury roadsters from the world’s most reputable and sought after manufacturers – and of course meeting great women?
If so, take a closer look at the life you are living. A sugar daddy:
1. focuses on establishing himself. This means taking an early interest in education and how to put the information and skills that he learns to work for him;
2. dedicates himself to doing the hard work. This means committing to a job, working long hours and working his way to the top – often becoming successful much more quickly than his peers;
3. sets goals and achieves them. In other words, rather than thinking “Someday, I would like to travel to Asia,” a sugar daddy sets his mind to it. A sugar daddy thinks, “In five years, I want to take a month long trip to Japan; in order to make that happen, I will need to. . .” A sugar daddy makes his list of goals – goals for travel, income, cars, homes and even experiences – and then commits to achieving his goal, one step at a time; and
4. knows that he needs companionship, because no one would want to go through life alone. In the case of a sugar daddy, this companionship often comes in the form of a sugar babe or sugar baby; a beautiful woman – often a bit younger – for whom the sugar daddy can care and take care of.
In other words, becoming a sugar daddy means making a commitment to a lifestyle.
True, this lifestyle comes with wealth and glamour. It’s a lifestyle that lends itself to driving fast cars. It’s a lifestyle that comes with a fashionable home that is stylish inside and out. It’s a lifestyle that is dressed designer clothing and shoes and accented with the right jewelry – a sharp ring and a great watch. But it’s not a lifestyle that comes without a price.
That price is commitment. That price is drive. It means getting the right education. It means finding the right career path. And it means always putting in more than everyone else – sometimes working longer hours, sometimes tackling the more challenging projects because they come with the greatest rewards as wall as being willing to sacrifice relationships for getting to the top.
Though some of those relationships exist within the workplace, some sugar daddies find that relationships outside of the office suffer as well. They maintain friendships, and can make the time they need to get out and spend time with the guys. Some have trouble with dating as well.
This isn’t because there is a shortage of beautiful women. It isn’t because there is a shortage of younger women who do not want to be seen with a great-looking, talented and successful guy. In fact, it’s merely a matter of meeting the right woman – an honest woman, a woman with dreams and goals that mesh well with your own.
Finding that woman is – like all goals of sugar daddies – possible.
Are you focused on achieving your goals? Are you committed to success in all areas of your life – career, home, travel and relationships? Do you want to be stylish, comfortable – and even envied? If so, you may be ready for the life of the sugar daddy.
It’s hard work, but somebody’s got to do it. Many already have – finding that focusing on education and hard work can lead to a rich life, the life that most people only dream of living.
By Sayyat S
PS: If you intend to find yourself a sugar daddy or be a sugar daddy, at least be a successful about it. This website might help you in one way or another, KISSING 101.
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