17 Benefits & Joys of Being Single & Not Get Attached

Pressure from sociological forces such as TV programming, movies, advertising, family, and friends dictate that you must pair off for a long-term relationship and join the herd or “couples only” club.

While this is easy for those who happen to be fated to have a relationship with a compatible, long-term partner, what about everyone else?

Based on our extensive empirical research, you meet who you’re meant to meet when you’re meant to meet them. For those who don’t meet “the one” before age 30, 40, or whatever other age they feel they’re supposed to secure a “permanent” partner, it can cause a lot of anxiety and even depression.

If you’re single, rather than focusing on what you don’t have in your love life, we recommend embracing the benefits; there are many of being on your own, and we list some of them below.

1) Freedom. As a single person, you can do what you want, when you want. Yes, in a karmic sense, everything you do, say, and intend comes back to you either in this life and more often in a future life, but when you’re single you aren’t accountable to anyone else.

2) No compromising. Even people in compatible relationships need to compromise occasionally. As a single person, you don’t need to surrender anything unless you choose to.

3) More time to focus on other areas of your life. Career, health, friendship, and other goals can take center stage with all the energy you need to accomplish them.

4) No in-laws. As a single person, there are no obligations to spend time with people you may not really want to.

5) Solo vacations are fun (you meet more people).

6) If you live alone, your space is yours to do with as you please.

7) You can live out your fantasies, within ethical and legal boundaries, and no one will try to stop you or tell you that you are “wrong” if they don’t happen to agree.

You never have to deal with telling someone it’s over and having them try to guilt you into staying together. Read the rest of this entry »

What your pick-up lines?

Pick up lines are two edged swords. Either the woman loves it or hates it. Genuine conversation starters, instead of using a lame pick up line, is a better option. If you really can’t think of anything to say, you can try a cute pick up line but it must come across as a genuine compliment. Otherwise, good luck, the chances of getting a tight slap is high.

Some women will think these are cheesy but some may actually fall for them

“I don’t think I have met you before, or I would have remembered a good-looking woman like you”

“I’ve had a lousy day today. It always makes me feel better to see a pretty girl smile. And your smile brightens my day”

“Is it hot in here, or is it just you?”

“Weren’t you on the cover of Vogue?”

“Right now I feel like Richard Gere, because I am standing next to a Pretty Woman.”

“There aren’t enough O’s in the word hot to describe how hot you are.”

What’s your favourite pick up line?

After a Date, why he does not call?

Dating is risky business. You go out with a guy, and you hope that

• you will have a good time
• he is not a jerk
• there will be a second date

Then there is the problem where even though the actual date itself went very well, he does not call again! What is going on?

By now, many of you would have read “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Guide to Understanding Guys” written by Greg Behrendt, the writer of Sex and the City. If you have, you will understand some of the reasons behind this. So, you know that it might just be that everything did go as well as you thought it did, but there are other reasons the relationship did not develop.

But there is one other thing that you might want to consider which might tip the scales in your favor. You see, he might not have thought the date went well.

Guys and gals see things differently. He might think that you were not interested, or that he messed up somehow and is a little shy to call you. Now, if you are interested, why not give a call?

After all, it is normal for you to call friends and acquaintances, so why not call this “new acquaintance” and just talk?

Keeping the lines of communications open is important. Gone are the days when the men make all the moves. Today’s women are as independent as men. Women hold their own jobs, own their own apartments and basically go about life just fine alone. If all it takes is just to reach out a friendly hand, why not?

Calling does not imply that you are desperate for a second date. It could just be a matter of courtesy. And in the worse case, even if you never end up in a meaningful relationship, there is no harm in making yet another friend.

A Letter From Ms V - My Worst Date Ever!

The following is an extract from a letter we recieved from a lady who just wished to be identified as “V”.

Hi,

I stumbled on your site and I thought that I should share this story with your readers. I hope that if a girl ever finds herself with such a date, that she can be wise enough to walk away. And for the boys, to never do this despicable thing.

I met this guy (let’s just call him “John”). He was quite a good looking guy. I was only 22 then. John seemed to be so sophisticated and worldly wise. To a young, struggling executive like I was then, he looked every bit the kind of successful person I hoped to be one day.

We had a pleasant evening together. He picked me up in his car and we drove to a nice restaurant. Nothing very fancy, but the food was nice and the companionship was great. He was a good conversationalist. He knew when to talk and when to listen. I had a really good time.

After dinner, we walked around town for a bit, then he drove me home. So far, it was a really pleasant date and I looked forward to going out with him again. But halfway home, he turned to a secluded spot where he parked his car. I thought we were going to make out. Seems to be a little forward on a first date, but at that time, I was young and a little naive.

Unfortunately, he did not just want to make out. Before he even kissed me, he asked me to give him a blow-job! The nerve of it. But the worse part was, when I said “no”; he took offence! He said that I was conservative, not liberated. Damn right. I hardly know him.

Thinking back, I realise how precarious my situation was then. But at that time, the danger did not occur to me. I was fortunate that he accepted the rejection and did send me home. I did not take his calls and he gave up after a few tries.

I hope that girls, you will not give in to such unreasonable demands. And boys, please, respect the girls you date.

Sincerely,
V

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How To Get A Good Date?

We have all heard about them, but then, why is it so hard to actually experience one?

Your friends come back and tell you all about the wonderful date that they just went on. They gush on about how wonderful he or she was, and how great a time they had. It could have been a dinner, a movie, whatever. Now, what happened to your own dates?

Here are some simple tips so that you can get a great date too!

Tip #1 - Understand what a “date” is

Sometimes, we go out on a date with the wrong expectations. When you do that, you are bound to be disappointed. I mean, how can you say “It was a great date” if you yourself have no idea what a “great date” is?  For starters, a “date” is simply an opportunity for you to be out with someone, doing something together, just the two of you. Now, if you were supposed to go see a movie, and you did; it was a great date. But if you did not really want to watch that movie, and you came back disappointed, what exactly were you expecting?

Tip #2 - Be honest with yourself

Be very clear what you expect the date to be. If it is the first date, then you might just want an opportunity to see if you are comfortable with the other person. If you expect to be swept off your feet, then, you might not be realistic. Yes, it does happen, but that is not the norm. People do win the lottery, but the rest of us work.

Tip #3 - Practice, Practice, Practice

Practice makes perfect. And actually, dating is an activity that the more you do it, the better you get at it. Dating is about you enjoying yourself, and getting to know the other person. If you know what you enjoy, what you like doing, then it is more likely you will enjoy your date. With more dates, you also learn how to be comfortable around other people, how to spot “trouble”, how to be a good listener, how (and what) to share and so on. Please understand that we are not talking about practicing your smooching techniques or your “moves”. It’s about practicing how to build relationships with other people.

Tip #4 - Dress Comfortably

Sounds silly, because most of the time, you dress to impress. That is true, but think about this - can you impress if you are squirmingly uncomfortable?

Imagine wearing a tight pair of jeans (to show off your slim legs?) and then spend the entire evening trying to get blood circulating. First of all, you will not be very good company. Your attention is not fully on your date. If he feels you are distracted, then he might cool off too. Or he might feel you are acting a little “artificial”; which could be simply a by-product of your uncomfortable clothing.

By all means, dress to kill. But select a dressing style that is appropriate to the place you are going for the date, and something that you feel comfortable in.