Archive for the ‘Online Dating’ Category
Jul
05
Posted by admin on
July 5, 2008
To succeed in dating, one must have a positive outlook and mindset. If you really want to find your lover and you are sincere about it, no one can stop you from achieving your target.
Online dating has become the norm these days and people find it difficult to excel in this field. One can easily find a partner if he or she follows some basic rules.
Don’t mention your past relationships
One should never mention his/her past experiences with potential mates, especially in early stages. That can be counterproductive and your potential lover may think that you are still involved with your ex. You just have to get over that feeling.
Be Self-Centered
Online dating is a tough game where you have to project yourself to a maximum level. This aspect requires you to be little selfish. You should never run after every Tom, Dick, Lisa or Mary on the online dating sites. If someone is not interested then you should also follow your own path.
Be Optimistic
Have a faith that you’ll definitely find a partner from the dating site. You should always be optimistic and full of life and energy. You can find long term relationships on the internet. You just have to accept that fact.
Have your own style
One should always follow his/her own style in online dating. If you try to follow others, then you would lessen your chances of meeting someone special. People like individuality and love to meet with people who have their own style.
Give respect, Get respect
If you treat others with respect, in return they’ll also give you respect. Relationships are made on mutual trust and bonding and you should always be true to your partner.
Have a superb profile
If you have a nice online presence then the chances of meeting your soul mate will also increase. It’s a global phenomenon that well defined online profiles get much more hits then those who are dull and boring.
Increase your exposure
The more you browse the internet dating portals and have a continued presence, the more people will take a notice of you. Always try to interact with the maximum number of people on these site, you’re just increasing your chances. It’s a game of marketing you know.
By Jimmy Shergill
Jun
24
Posted by admin on
June 24, 2008
“I Want You to Want Me” is an art exhibit premiering in New York City. As reported by the New York Times the purpose of the exhibit is to show how people act when they are alone and in comparison to what they present to others in their online dating profile.
One of the creators of the exhibit Jonathan Harris explains, “People think contradictions are sexy, so they try to describe themselves as having contradictions.”
That is probably true. Along with an air of mystery, people are also excited meeting another person who does not quite fit into a stereotypical box. For instance you may see someone’s photo where they are dressed to the nines in punk rock attire and figure that tells you all you need to know. However after doing more investigating you discover they have a passion for silent movies and 17th century Italian paintings. Finding out something unexpected about a potential dating partner can have a startling effect especially when it turns out to be compatible.
Unfortunately with online dating, contradictions can also mean something else entirely. In other words, they are just flat out lying. There could be any number of reasons why they refuse to tell you the truth.
1. The Unthrilling Life
They read your profile, chat with you and come to the conclusion you have led a pretty interesting life. They on the other hand do not feel so good about their experiences. It could be embarrassment, just plain hurt or the feeling they cannot compete with what you have to offer. Should they feel that way? No. But many of us sometimes analyze our lives to the point of ridiculous.
2. They REALLY like you
Sally Field’s Academy Award acceptance speech has become part of our pop culture folklore: “You like me. You really like me.” Many people have made fun of that speech over the years but more than anything it was all about acceptance. No matter what level a person may be on, everyone wants to be accepted in some way. Sometimes if a person likes you enough, they are more than willing to shade or change their answers outright so you will accept them. They may think this is flattering. It is not. It has the stench of neediness written all over it.
3. The Dark Side
Thankfully instances of online dating hookups that have gone tragically wrong are few and far between. But they do happen. There are people out there whose sole intent is to pull you into their own personal insane asylum; so they will say anything they can to get you to open the door. They must be cunning to do this but they know that mystery, human curiosity and contradictions can have your emotions spinning out of control.
Contradictions in an online dating profile are great as long as they are of the truthful variety. Knowing that a person’s likes and interests go further than what you initially assumed is a wonderful thing. Building a relationship on a lie however even if the intentions are good can only lead to disastrous results for everyone involved.
Written by Daryl Campbell
Jun
16
Posted by admin on
June 16, 2008
According to a study by Jupiter Research the online dating market in the US will grow to $932 million annually by 2011. This is good news because it means their will be more online dating partners to choose from.
The downside is information overload. Too many choices can lead many people not to take action. While you do not want to be choosy to the point that no one fits the bill, you should have in place some filters to make the process a little bit easier.
1. Ask informative questions
This can be a long process but it is absolutely necessary. In the offline world it’s a little bit easier to size the person up and decide if you want to make a go of it. Not so with online dating. You have to keep probing just to make sure it’s is okay to even meet with this person for the first time. Don’t be afraid to ask the questions that need asking. Find out about their hobbies, goals, educational background as well as other interests. Make sure what they say matches their profile and even then try to investigate further. This is not only for your safety (being anonymous is both a blessing and a curse in the online world) but to see if there is a connection that the two of you can build on.
2. Attraction
When you see someone’s profile do you think nice, no thanks or maybe? You should be able to answer that one quickly. Yes you want to get to know a person beyond their photo but let’s face it; right now that and the profile are all you’ve got to go on. Attraction is one of the main ingredients to building a dating relationship. If it’s not there then don’t waste your time. There are too many other choices out there waiting for you.
3. Personalize
With the overwhelming number of potential dating partners it’s easy to develop a standard response. When you see someone you are interested in try to personalize your messages. You don’t know the person so be respectful but let them know there was something in their profile or photo that caught your eye; the less obvious the better. Showing keen observation is a plus. A good sense of humor in your correspondence doesn’t hurt either.
4. The Best Policy
If a potential dating partner tells you they are a world class pilot but what they really mean is they work the baggage terminal at the local airport you would rightly be angry. So be honest with the person you are interested in. A little exaggeration here and there may jazz up the profile but it is no way to start or build a dating relationship. Lying to the other person is bad enough but it also shows a lack of trust in yourself; not believing that what you bring to the table is just as good as what the other person has to offer. Wrong. Honesty is not only essential but very attractive.
Online dating is a numbers game and it can be overwhelming. But when it works it’s as good as anything offline. Utilize the tips above and take advantage of this growing phenomenon to find that special someone in your life.
by Daryl Campbell
May
04
Posted by admin on
May 4, 2008
How not to be a lousy bad date? Ethel at Thel Talk asked:
Imagine how it is like to date in the real world. How many nights have you asked your friends to set you up on a blind date, only to get frustrated? How many weekends have you gone to a bar in hopes of meeting someone, yet again end up frustrated? How many times have you asked a friend to watch a movie with you, or to dinner, yet boldly tells you in the end that you are just not their type?
Is that why online dating has blossomed so much over the last few years? A search on the internet revealed many benefits of getting a really nice date online
1. Anonymity - The most important benefit to online dating is safety. When you sign up at any given dating and matchmaking service, you can remain anonymous to everyone. You don’t have to give out any identifying information unless you chose to.
2. Security- Most dating sites allow you to report a user who is harassing you.. You can also have certain people blocked from contacting you within the site or even have their user rights revoked if they are being really malicious. This type of protection does not exist when you are scoping for singles in a bar.
3. Free Lots of online dating services allow you to sign up and create a profile FOC. You can cruise the site for potential matches without paying a cent. Only when you found someone you like to communicate would you need to subscribe as a paying member.
4. Single’s heaven> - At an online dating site, you can find thousands of singles where you can potentially find an absolute perfect match. Of course, you have to do your due diligence to ascertain they are truly singles as they claimed to be.
5. Low Cost- You can date as many people online as you want and for as long as you want, for around $20 per month. That is a huge difference to dating in person and spending tens to hundreds of dollars on one single outing.
6. Time You can get to know as many people you like at one time without diminishing the amount of your personal time.
7. Fear of Rejection is Eliminated- You can introduce yourself to hundreds of people painlessly, and if for some reasons they rejected your friendship, you will be able to handle the rejection easier. Online rejection is easier to stomach as you don’t see them face to face.
8. Honesty - When people date online they have the inclination to be more honest about who they are, what they stand for and what they value. The computer adds as a great buffer. However, the opposite can be true with folks painting a rosier picture than they actually are. So you got to be real careful on this.
Do you agree with these benefits? Let’s talk.
