Learn How To Appear Confident Through Your Body Language

Posted by admin on June 17, 2008

My name is Bond. James Bond. Don’t laugh: Even though they’re just fiction, you can learna lot from James Bond movies. He is a true Man. Let’s play a little bit. Imagine that yougot the role of James Bond in an upcoming movie. How would you prepare yourself for it?You would probably watch most of the James Bond films already out there and practice infront of a mirror to make your part fit the original character perfectly.

Now I don’t ask you to watch all the James Bond films. But I ask you to watch a few, andinstead of focusing on the spectacular action scenes, pay attention to the main character.Observe how he walks, how he talks, the tone of his voice and how he interacts withwomen. What he says is not that important, but how he says it - you can learn a lot fromthat. He is always confident, calm and casual. He knows how to lead, and he knows thatwomen will always follow him, without doubt. So I suggest you go to your favorite videostore now and rent a few James Bond films if you haven’t already done so.

Here is a list describing confident, Manly body language. Use it to calibrate yours:

1. Arms. Folding your arms is a closed position. It means that you could be hiding something,you’re not comfortable, you don’t want to talk, or you don’t like what the other person issaying. A confident Man is always comfortable and doesn’t have to hide anything. Heusually has his arms by his sides or partially in his pockets.

2. Legs. Closing your legs, crossing them or keeping your feet together might show insecurity.Stand with your feet wider apart. Of course, a 4.5-foot straddle would be ridiculous. Stand ina comfortable, natural way.

3. Eyes. Most of the time, you should look the other person in the eyes. Don’t stare at herawkwardly; just catch a glance here and there and maintain eye contact when you can.Never stare at the ground when talking to someone either. You are not a kid who got badgrades in school and is afraid to talk to daddy. Look away to the side, but never down.Confidence should be radiating from your glance.

4. Posture. Stand erect, and don’t bow your back. And, since I suspect no one pushed a postup your ass, don’t stand firmly in a stiff way. You can stand loose without arching yourback, right? Right.

5. Smiling. It’s always a good idea to smile. It disarms people. It’s scientifically proven thatsmiling will not only give good feelings to the smile, but to the smiler as well. Yes, that’syou. So don’t be afraid to do it. You shouldn’t always have a big grin on your face, but whentalking to women or approaching a girl, make sure to smile a lot. It makes a good impressionand even helps her loosen up while talking to you. She won’t be as afraid as she would be ifyou approached with a serious look on your face. So remember what I say, and drop themacho thing, OK?

A confident person is usually in a relaxed and comfortable state. He avoids making fastmoves. He doesn’t play with his fingers or shake his legs nervously. Every move you makeand every muscle you move should be the result of a conscious decision and not caused byanxiety. Walk slowly, but casually. Don’t walk like a robot, please. Be calm and relaxed.You are not in a hurry. You don’t have to run. You are not being chased. Move at your ownpace. And don’t be afraid to take up some space as you move. Of course, you don’t want towalk with your hands spread 6 feet apart, but show that you can fill the space around you.

By Johan M Krost