Are You Not Being Loved For Who You Are?

Posted by admin on September 18, 2008

It’s a prevailing idea in the dating game that you shouldn’t have to try to be someone else to make a man love you. A man should be able to love you for who you are - the real woman inside - and not someone you pretend to be. And if he can’t do that, well, then that’s his problem, and not yours. Women everywhere say this sort of thing all the time.

Sure, that’s the way things work… in an ideal world.

If you listen to these same women as they tell you about their own past relationships, you’ll realize that their dating lives are far from ideal. It’s easy to hear stories about how they weren’t loved for who they were, even if they were great women. It leads them to the conclusion that men these days simply don’t want to be with real women anymore.

Actually, that assumption is far from true - men actually do love real women. As the men make mistakes along the way in their relationships, these women sometimes forget the fact that they themselves make mistakes as well. Here are some of the biggest mistakes that great women make, which keep them from being loved for who they are.

Keeping negative thoughts is probably the most common mistake made by great women. These women have probably gone through a few relationships with men that didn’t go too well in the past. The problem is that these women don’t forget about the bad times, and instead turn them into “guidelines” in judging any new men who walk into their lives.

Unfortunately, men can sense these negative vibes a mile away. This only shows men that she’s exactly the type of woman to stay away from.

Believing that you shouldn’t do anything for a man to love you is another bad habit of many great women. Put simply, men don’t like the idea of them having to do all the work in a relationship - every bit as much as you don’t. Thinking that you deserve a great relationship without you ever having to lift a finger is one of the worst attitudes you could have.

Here’s why - men get into relationships with women to please them. In other words, they’d like a woman who’s easy to please - a “good woman” in their books. If you think you shouldn’t have to do anything to be loved, then they’ll know you’re extremely hard to please - and, therefore, a “bad woman.”

To keep a man and receive the love and attention that you crave, you’ll need to learn to be easy to please… and you’ll also need to show him that he’s great at pleasing you.

In the end, you’ll have two choices. You can either think, “A man should just love me for me,” and wait for the world to revolve around you - or you can make the effort to create what you want by aligning yourself with the way the world works.

Remember, if you choose to just sit there and wait for “the one” to sweep you off your feet, then chances are you’re in for a really, really long wait.

By A Aaron