How To Talk Dirty To Your Date?
This is one of those questions where the ‘How’ part actually covers so many unspoken queries – Why, What, When, Where?
When someone asks if you know how to talk dirty – these different thoughts will flit through the brain faster than you can say “dusty windowsill!”
How to talk dirty is actually very easy – it’s not something that takes huge amounts of experience nor is it something that you have to be perfect at to impress, arouse or be successful in.
When you are asked to talk dirty – or indeed when you feel the urge to talk dirty yourself – you are following a simple human urge.
In order for you to know how to talk dirty, you need to understand exactly where the request is coming from (what part of the sub-conscious drives it) and what is the sensation it causes to the recipient.
After all – it’s the pleasure that the recipient gets from hearing you talk dirty that determines how successful they feel you are at it and how much it effects them. This in turn, naturally determines how much pleasure returns your way!
For a woman, hearing and speaking dirty talk can fit into one major motivation – the desire and pleasure gleaned from doing something that society / parents / friends consider as wicked or naughty. For some unknown and totally unfathomable reason, a girl being able to talk dirty is really appreciated by the recipient yet strikes chords of dismay and amazement in others that is way out of proportion to the act committed. Whether it is a puritanical view of life or just one that allows small thinking, a woman being seen or heard to enjoy sex is still awkward for some and a no no for others.
But it is a good thing. A very good thing.
For a woman to hear all manner of things that her partner wishes to do to her or have her do to him, usually in very graphic detail, helps to push back the boundaries of not only imagination and sensation but also increases her confidence in her partner and their relationship. For many women the first couple of sessions involving dirty talk can be a revelation and an amazing discovery as she feels exactly how much effect such talk can have on her.
After all, hearing what a partner wants to do to you is a sharing of inner trust and self, something it is increasingly difficult to do in less than good relationships.
So talking dirty touches a couple of base levels for a woman – those targeted towards trust and personal boundaries.
For a man – well, they get something different but still just as incredibly arousing.
A man ‘sees’ things in his mind’s eye much clearer and easier than a woman does. As a partner details what they want to do to him, describing how they will touch him or what they will do to what part of him exactly – an image forms in his mind, he can actually see a hand touching here or a mouth lightly kissing there and it plays as a mental film for him.
Add to this the fact that he hears your voice describing to him what is going to happen and you are targeting the major senses all at once. Sight, sound and touch. (Taste comes later maybe?) This will give a sensory overload that seriously heightens his pleasure.
So next time you get ready to indulge in a little dirty talk, remember the effect it will have on your partner, remember how it will come across to them and adapt what you say and how you say it accordingly. You’ll be ever so glad you did – and so will they.
Note: Don’t just talk dirty, action speaks louder than words. You can spice your dirty talk by some appropriate (or even dirty) kissing. If you don’t think you are kissing like an expert, you might want to pop over this interesting website that talks on KISSING 101.
