After a Date, why he does not call?

Posted by admin on March 11, 2008

Dating is risky business. You go out with a guy, and you hope that

• you will have a good time
• he is not a jerk
• there will be a second date

Then there is the problem where even though the actual date itself went very well, he does not call again! What is going on?

By now, many of you would have read “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Guide to Understanding Guys” written by Greg Behrendt, the writer of Sex and the City. If you have, you will understand some of the reasons behind this. So, you know that it might just be that everything did go as well as you thought it did, but there are other reasons the relationship did not develop.

But there is one other thing that you might want to consider which might tip the scales in your favor. You see, he might not have thought the date went well.

Guys and gals see things differently. He might think that you were not interested, or that he messed up somehow and is a little shy to call you. Now, if you are interested, why not give a call?

After all, it is normal for you to call friends and acquaintances, so why not call this “new acquaintance” and just talk?

Keeping the lines of communications open is important. Gone are the days when the men make all the moves. Today’s women are as independent as men. Women hold their own jobs, own their own apartments and basically go about life just fine alone. If all it takes is just to reach out a friendly hand, why not?

Calling does not imply that you are desperate for a second date. It could just be a matter of courtesy. And in the worse case, even if you never end up in a meaningful relationship, there is no harm in making yet another friend.