How To Get A Good Date?

Posted by admin on January 13, 2008

We have all heard about them, but then, why is it so hard to actually experience one?

Your friends come back and tell you all about the wonderful date that they just went on. They gush on about how wonderful he or she was, and how great a time they had. It could have been a dinner, a movie, whatever. Now, what happened to your own dates?

Here are some simple tips so that you can get a great date too!

Tip #1 - Understand what a “date” is

Sometimes, we go out on a date with the wrong expectations. When you do that, you are bound to be disappointed. I mean, how can you say “It was a great date” if you yourself have no idea what a “great date” is?  For starters, a “date” is simply an opportunity for you to be out with someone, doing something together, just the two of you. Now, if you were supposed to go see a movie, and you did; it was a great date. But if you did not really want to watch that movie, and you came back disappointed, what exactly were you expecting?

Tip #2 - Be honest with yourself

Be very clear what you expect the date to be. If it is the first date, then you might just want an opportunity to see if you are comfortable with the other person. If you expect to be swept off your feet, then, you might not be realistic. Yes, it does happen, but that is not the norm. People do win the lottery, but the rest of us work.

Tip #3 - Practice, Practice, Practice

Practice makes perfect. And actually, dating is an activity that the more you do it, the better you get at it. Dating is about you enjoying yourself, and getting to know the other person. If you know what you enjoy, what you like doing, then it is more likely you will enjoy your date. With more dates, you also learn how to be comfortable around other people, how to spot “trouble”, how to be a good listener, how (and what) to share and so on. Please understand that we are not talking about practicing your smooching techniques or your “moves”. It’s about practicing how to build relationships with other people.

Tip #4 - Dress Comfortably

Sounds silly, because most of the time, you dress to impress. That is true, but think about this - can you impress if you are squirmingly uncomfortable?

Imagine wearing a tight pair of jeans (to show off your slim legs?) and then spend the entire evening trying to get blood circulating. First of all, you will not be very good company. Your attention is not fully on your date. If he feels you are distracted, then he might cool off too. Or he might feel you are acting a little “artificial”; which could be simply a by-product of your uncomfortable clothing.

By all means, dress to kill. But select a dressing style that is appropriate to the place you are going for the date, and something that you feel comfortable in.